Did you know you can get Christian romance novels? Some may ask what s wrong with them but a new book by Boston University researchers Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, offers a disturbing look at how Internet search engines reveal much about the sexual and emotional desires of men and women, and how they differ.
We all know about Men, boobs is the way to their heart but what about the women? Yes some are trapped by visual pornography but they are quite likely to instead be involved in such media as Internet romance or the old-fashioned romance novel.
Recently on a crosswalk.com article they explore the dangers of reading Christian or normal romance novels. I wont quote the whole article which you can find here but some of it needs to be repeated. I would encourage you to read it and while they just focus on romance novels do not forget the Internet romance aka facebook…
“Romance novels rarely have a sequel,” the book concludes. “Once the hero and heroine are joined in love or matrimony, they get their Happily-Ever-After, presumably with a bevy of children and domestic bliss. Further adventures would violate the female fantasy of true, committed, eternal love.”
…these scholars explain all of these archetypal female desires in a Darwinian need for the woman to seek out a mate who can be simultaneously monogamous and protective of the offspring. This evolutionary desire is seen in the strong male who pours out his feelings of devotion, and whose lifelong commitment is frozen in time and certainty in the Happily-Ever-After moment.
A lot of this genre, though, is simply a Christianization of a form not intended to enhance intimacy but to escape to an artificial illusion of it. Granted, there’s no graphic sexuality here. The hero and heroine don’t sleep together; they pray together. But that’s just the point. How many disappointed middle-aged women in our congregations are reading these novels as a means of comparing the “strong spiritual leaders” depicted there with what by comparison must seem to be underachieving lumps lying next to them on the couch?
I know with me and Ariana we had heaps of preconceived ideas going into marriage, you do not need more from a soppy stupid untrue book.