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Why Christian Kids rebel? part 1

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Why do church kids rebel? Lets be honest and get down and try and highlight why Christian church kids either rebel or never seem to get serious about God.

I am no expert but I am myself a church kid, have rebelled, played with God, read a book Why Christian Kids Rebel and have been a youth leader before.

First of all I will outline three reasons…

1) Treated like kids

Yes we are kids at one stage but we do not stay as kids, the one thing I have learnt (have a little brother) and been a youth leader is that you cannot treat them as kids. You treat them like kids, they will behave like kids. Give them responsibilities, they will take it, thrive and grow up.

2) Treated not as important as non-church kids

As a teenager and young adult during church life your treated like second rate citizens and that people who have been saved from BIG sin (drugs, sex etc) are more important and have a better testimony than you. This is NOT right! Everyone is important and as important as each other.

3) No power/ fun demonstrated by parents/ church

Church is boring. I know of a couple of kids that they are bored stiff at church, they only go coz their parents do (We have all been there). No wonder they want part of the world, it is more fun. The songs are old and crusty, hard chairs, no mates and everyone treats them like above.

Please add your own reasons, experiences and thoughts on why Christian Kids rebel.

In the next part I will outline the truths about these lies…

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16 comments so far

Ari
 1 

I think its in human nature to rebel and often times Christian kids grow up knowing what is right that they come to a point where they want to do wrong – because they are taught what is right all the time…

Think about if someone tells you not to touch the wet paint – you instinctively want to touch it

well i know i personally would. When someone tells me i cant do something i like to prove to them the total opposite. its our rebellious nature (and im not even a christian kid)

December 14th, 2007 at 9:13 am
GermWorks
 2 

You raise some good points Ari!
I always go to touch the wet paint :P

To add to your point about wanting to do wrong, I think that is due to the fact that a lot of Christian kids see Christianity boring!

December 17th, 2007 at 8:38 am
TigerTom
 3 

Traditional Roman Catholicism + 1962 Latin Mass + Confession + Communion + Indulgences = Standing in the foyer of Heaven. Get in there!

September 2nd, 2008 at 2:49 am
GermWorks
 4 

Thanks for your comment TigerTom! I am a little confused exactly what you are getting at but I think you are using the example of traditionalists which imo bore and disillusion Christians, let alone the youth…

I know it did for me.
We are the Microwave generation who love things fast, instant and different. Including the way we serve God!

September 2nd, 2008 at 8:42 am
Jillian
 5 

It i because they are bored to lead the same life with out any recreation. And they do not have any right to go as per their wills.

Jillians last blog post..Fullerton, California

October 6th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
GermWorks
 6 

yes definitely agree that kids get bored without recreation, its the same for men (more hear).

Thanks for your comments and hope to see more

GermWorkss last blog post..No Turning Back – Shannon Noll

October 6th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Hillary
 7 

well…i am 12 i’m christian, and somehow i’ve stumbled on this link, and finally someone understands. i admit i “rebel” in way. my parents don’t know even 90% of the stuff i do, when they aren’t there! don’t put on the spot, but i’m getting really bored of going to church almost every single day. i luv jesus and all that, but y should us christian kids be treated like this!? we deserve a life too! we’re becoming/are nearly socially disabled, like almost closed off from the world. We need to breathe! but most of us r probably scared to even say what we think about the way our parents grow us up. it’s really hard, and i really don’t know how to talk to my parents.

November 12th, 2008 at 4:54 am
Jermayn
 8 

Great to hear from you Hillary and thanks for being so honest and open. I will try and answer your questions and comments to the best of my ability…

First let me say that I am no expert and while most kids (even I did) do things parents do not know about God does and he is what matters.

I do not know the state of your church but if you have a cool and spiritual mature youth leader I would talk to him about how you feel. If not maybe a family friend or someone else at church. If you cannot find someone, try praying to God that He will show you a person to be accountable with.

If your church is far from being fun and what you need socially and most importantly spiritual. I would suggest go to a church that does met these desires. Try and talk to your parents about this (most parents I know just want their kids at church – even if its not theres).

Last point I will make is that God wants us as followers and believers first and then second he wants us to go and preach the word.

What that means is that you are part of this world in the fact that you live, breathe, go to school, go shopping, wear clothes as everyone else. BUT God wants us to be a living testimony/ representative of him that we are NOT of the world that we drink, swear, wear same (skimpy) clothes just like the rest of the people that do not know God.
does that make sense?

You can find similar scriptures at Romans 12:2 and 1 John 2:15

November 12th, 2008 at 7:53 am
Hillary
 9 

well its me again. My religion is Apostolic, and the religion is totally strict and i hate it. I tried to work something out with my parents and nothing works for instance music. I mean is partially what makes me who i am, i love music. My fav band is Underoath, they’re christian but at the time, they rock so hard. According to my parents, i am only suppose to listen to gospel and stupid stuff. They think that you can mix rock and christianity together. And let’s not forget, there has been times when my mom called me a demon. Thats right, a mother called her own child a demon! Also i’m suffocating and my parents don’t see that i need to breathe and some independence. I try so many things to wotrk with my parents, but it only makes it worse and think of me as a bad kid. HELP!!! I’m dying right now (methporically)

December 23rd, 2008 at 2:28 am
Jermayn
 10 

Hi again and thanks for taking the time to comment again.

Sounds like your in between a hard place and your parents. I would only suggest to pray, pray and pray that Jesus will intervene and speak to your parents.

In regards to music, I know what you mean as I used to live by Tourniquet who was also very very heavy metal music but also were hard core Christians…

Anyone that challenged me about their music style, I personally got the song lyrics out and showed them what they sing. I also stated that back in the 60s rock was devils music and in the 70s and 80s metal was then devil music and in the 90s and 00s Rap and R&B is now devils music…

Again my tip would be to pray, pray and pray. Seek God and He will answer your requests, prayers etc.

Hope that gives some glimmer of hope/ inspiration :D

December 27th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
Hillary
 11 

srry again but i i pray a lot for parents to understand on what i need to do to set apart from them, but they don’t seem to get, i even tried dumbing it down

can u give me some other tips on how to talk to them

December 28th, 2008 at 2:22 am
Jermayn
 12 

Prayer does work, so I would not give up on that. I would suggest reading Daniel when he prayed three times a day towards heaven for several circumstances (Daniels Den etc).

Also some times, time only heals the problem. I used to go to a very similar church as you have described and I had decided to move cities for further my studies etc and I got a lot of bad rep etc when I decided to. Even my parents were on my back and questioned my motives etc. It was not until a few years later that my parents admitted that I had done the right thing. So sometimes you just have to pray and make the decision and let God justify you.

Jermayns last blog post..Dear Santa (What Every Club Coach is Wishing for Christmas)

December 29th, 2008 at 8:11 am
Frank
 13 

Hey great post! I grew up going to a Christian private school my whole life and saw this happen first hand. So many Christian kids rebel, either in high school or when they head off to college. I always attribtuted it to living a ’sheltered’ life. Most Christian private schools are expensive, and as a result the parents are quite wealthy. These parents believe that by sheltering their children from the evils of life that they are doing them good. In more cases than I can say I saw those parents mess up their kids the most. The children whos parents were a little more lenient and let kids explore childhood now have the most faithful and God loving children I have ever seen.

January 14th, 2009 at 8:03 am
Jermayn
 14 

I was given the opportunity to go to a private Christian school but I actually said no as I agree that being sheltered is not right and your examples of parents being more lenient vs over protected parents is also the case in my neck of the woods.

Thanks for your comments and I will update this post to include your comment as it 100% correct :D

January 14th, 2009 at 8:12 am
Jonathan Castro
 15 

I left the church when I was about 30 (that’s 6 years ago) because the Bible did not deliver on its promises, nor did Christianity live up to its expectations. My Christian religion isolated me from other children during secondary school, so I had no friends. This pattern continued at university and after. Now I only have a few friends, and have become rather a hermit. I simply don’t care for other people most of the time. Christianity cut me off from the world and the churches, which are totally pointless.

Jonathan Castros last blog post..Sanctimonious Twits

April 26th, 2009 at 12:36 am
Jermayn
 16 

If you do not mind me asking was it religion/ church/ people that failed to live up to the expectations or was it God himself? I ask as the God that I know, does not fail…

My Christian religion isolated me from other children during secondary school, so I had no friends. This pattern continued at university and after. Now I only have a few friends, and have become rather a hermit. I simply don’t care for other people most of the time. Christianity cut me off from the world and the churches, which are totally pointless.

This as you have highlighted is wrong. We are in the world as Christians, we are suppose to share the good news, the light of God! We should not reject our friends/ family etc because they do not believe in our Jesus. We are called to be Ambassadors for Christ which means we go into other areas and be a representative for God, show his love, show his mercy etc.

I am sorry your Christian experience was so negative, I just hope you give Jesus another chance and not let Humans view of church etc taint what God created.

Thanks Jonathan for your input, am heading over to your blog now :D

April 29th, 2009 at 9:33 am

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